“Few will have the greatness to bend history itself, but each of us can work to change a small portion of events. It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped. Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring those ripples build a current which can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.”
― Robert F. Kennedy

Sunday 20 January 2013

Happy Ever After

What happens if happy ever after just isn't? How did they come op with the term? Why would one instance make you happy forever after that? We rely so much on our emotions and what we perceive to be happiness, would we even know what it is if it hit us in our faces?

I love fairy tales, with castles and princesses and a prince who just knows that that one girl is the person for them. They've forsaken all others and will be happy with that one single princess for the rest of their natural lives. Most of the Prince Charming's are interesting characters - not because they are so well developed in the story, but because of their complete and utter dedication to the cause of finding a wife, and not just any wife, that one special princess locked up in a tower, or fast asleep, or under curse by apple. Why so much drama to find your princess? No nice ordinary girls in your kingdom?

I think the reason that girls are so obsessed with fairy tales and stories about princesses is for exactly that reason, we want to believe that our true love is out there slaying dragons to find us and that he will walk through fire to be with us. We face a sad reality when we grow up. Most men aren't charming and they're definitely not knights in shining armor on a quest to rescue you. You'll have to rescue yourself, babe.

The reality of the matter is just that you might be swept off your feet by a charming man - only to realize that he has an ex and a past and he turns out to be a complete and utter ass. No one is unscarred by our modern civilization. Everybody hurts. Everybody pretends.

We give way too much of ourselves too soon and when we do find that one person, who might not be perfect, but he's everything you want, you've already given so much of yourself away to people who were curious about you but never really cared, that you have too little left to give and he's not interested in the little.

How do you convince someone that you will not add to their hurt, and how can you be sure you won't? Are we all just shipwrecks floating to the shore, maybe we'll bump into someone we kind of like along the way, but how can we be sure? How do you know when you have found what you've been looking for?
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  1. Anonymous4 February 2013 at 14:05

    Hello Liza. i accidentally came across your site. You are a true inspiration for the modrrn day seeker, meaning a person with questions. You ask the questions we all wonder about. Anyhoe. Interesting. Keep up the good writing.

    One point, the being disappointed goes both ways, not just one. Meaning males and females.

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    1. Liza Mills6 February 2013 at 14:14

      Thanks for the comment Anonymous. I realize disappointment and all the feelings associated with it goes either way. I have also encountered the rare male that lets his feelings be known. Girls are maybe just less reserved about these feelings, as emotions are something we've been accustomed to even before the pope declared we have a soul, men on the other hand were taught to be manly and not to let it show - hunters in the cavemen setup. We are only now starting to realize that men have feelings, emotions and expectations regarding relationships and so called 'girly' things. I realize that this post has gross generalizations and I apologize for that. I am, however, just a girl, writing from a my own perspective.;)
      Regards
      Liza

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